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Thursday, December 28, 2006

Fertility/Infertility Lingo


Trying To Conceive, Trying To Get Pregnant  Acronyms and Lingo

If you're just starting out on your "Trying To Conceive" journey, you're probably realizing that there's an entire community out there (online and offline) who are in the same place you are.
My site: www.getpregnantover40.com
 If you visit online support or discussion forums, a number of abbreviations are used that you might not be familiar with. Here is a good resource to to get started:

Do You Speak TTC?

Tuesday, December 26, 2006

What Is Perimenopause? Can You Get Pregnant?



I have found that people tend to use the term "perimenopause" loosely. Many people are confused as to what it is, when it happens, and whether or not they're "in it".

Here is an article that explains more about perimenopause, the symptoms, and what you can do about them. Note: The article does mention that you still can get pregnant during perimenopause.

What You Should Know About Perimenopause

Sunday, December 24, 2006

Thursday, December 14, 2006

Fertility Drugs, Multiples and the Dangers



Many infertile couples actually would love to have twins. I admit, I had dreams of having twins when I was trying to conceive. The only thing better than one baby would be two, right? Well...although most twins are born healthy, having more than one baby at a time can significantly increase your chances of complications during pregnancy. Of course, were seeing more multiples with the widespread use of fertility drugs. Here is an article about some of the dangers of multiple births:

When Fertility Therapy Runs Amok
Debating the ethics and dangers of multiple births

Monday, December 11, 2006

Great Book If You're TTC or Trying For Anything Else


I have this book called Personal Power Through Awareness which I've had so long I forgot when and how I got the book. I think originally borrowed it from my sister, but then eventually bought my own copy. I refer to it daily and I can't say enough how good the book is.

Here is an excerpt from the website (link above)

"I invite you to explore with me the universe you know so well. We will view it from a slightly different perspective, in a way that allows it to take on an added dimension, an unsuspected richness. It is the world of energy that exists all around you. This book will enable you to see more clearly the energy world you exist in, to understand the belief systems, mass thoughtforms, and telepathic energies of others which affect you. It is a course in bringing the unconscious into consciousness, delving into the mystery of the unseen energies in and around you. There is much beyond what you see with your five senses, and it can affect you. As you understand these unseen energies, they can become a tool to assist you in getting to wherever you want to go."

Tuesday, November 28, 2006

IVF and Birth Defects

When I was going through fertility treatments, specifically IVF, I was never told that I may be predisposing my baby to some types of birth defects. Some of my previous posts link to articles about certain abnormalities which seem to be more prevalent among babies born to women who underwent IVF -- here is another one:

IVF May Be Linked To Birth Defects

From the article:

"After studying data from a national registry of patients with Beckwith-Wiedemann syndrome (BWS), the researchers found that IVF-initiated conception was six times more common than in the general population..."

In all fairness, the vast majority of babies born through IVF are normal and the article does go on to say:

"At this point, we simply have a strong association between BWS and IVF," adds Michael R. DeBaun, M.D., M.P.H., assistant professor of pediatrics at Washington University School of Medicine and a staff physician at St. Louis Children's Hospital. "We need additional data to verify our findings, and if confirmed, to understand why there is an association."


I realize some couples have no choice but to go through IVF to conceive, however, it never hurts to be informed about the risks or at least to know what questions to ask.

Wednesday, November 15, 2006

Laugh With A Baby!

I know it's painful for those who are trying to conceive to see other babies or to see other people having fun with their babies. However, I'm convinced that if you really want something, you need to surround yourself with your goal. Here is a video of a baby laughing. It's hard not to laugh with the baby because it's so contagious:

baby laughing

Laughter can be very healing. It can also combat the effects of a stressful lifestyle by lowering blood pressure, stress hormones and increasing endorphins.

Monday, November 13, 2006

IVF over 40 - Who's In Charge Here Anyway?

Pregnancy Over 40, IVF Over 40

When I was going through fertility treatments (which I don't have fond memories of), I remember feeling like somewhat of a spectator who would occasionally have eggs harvested, drugs injected, and blood extracted.  It was almost like I was watching a movie and somehow I was in it.


http://www.getpregnantover40.com

 I felt like my life was at the mercy of a few insensitive nurses who probably saw me as just another desperate woman who wants a baby. And for all this, I paid dearly(about $25,000--but who's counting?) The price I paid wasn't just financial, it was emotional and physical as well.

After My Second IVF I Quit Fertility Treatments

After my second failed IVF, I couldn't take it anymore. I had to take a good look at what I was doing to myself. I had completely turned over my body to the doctors and totally lost control. It's no wonder my fertility treatments failed. I needed to come to the realization that I was in control of my body, not the doctors. Once I did, my life changed. It was so empowering to regain control of my body and my life. After recovering from my second IVF (which ended in miscarriage), I started my all natural journey to pregnancy, and guess what? I got pregnant in a matter of months (long story short I got pregnant 4 times on my own). My last pregnancy carried to term.

It's amazing what can happen when you take back your power. After conceiving naturally and miscarrying, I had a number of RE's look at me with that "give it up honey" look and I would think, "hey, you don't know the first thing about me...yes, you know my age and you've read my medical records, but you don't know who you're talking to..."

I've always been tempted to call all those skeptical doctors up or send them pictures of my daughter (assuming any of them even remember me)to show them how wrong they were. But, the fact is, I got the sweetest revenge of all.

Monday, November 06, 2006

Infertility's Emotional Aspects

I think many of us underestimate how stressful and emotionally draining it is to go through infertility and miscarriage. When I was trying to conceive, every waking moment was spent thinking about trying to get pregnant. My self esteem (which at times was quite fragile to begin with) took a beating and I frequently felt like a second class citizen who wasn't entitled to my own baby. Here is an insightful article about why infertility can be such an emotional rollercoaster ride:


The Emotional Roller Coaster of Infertility


The article also discusses ways to cope with the stress of infertility. For me, the "knowing" that I would eventually succeed kept me going. That's not to say that I didn't have my moments of despair, but I usually bounced back, pulled up my bootstraps and stayed the course. I'm so glad I did.

Friday, November 03, 2006

Over 40 Pregnancy & Motherhood - The Best!

 Pregnancy Over 40, It's All Good!

There's so much negativity surrounding "pregnancy over 40". Yes, I'm sure some women have complications.
My site: www.getpregnantover40.com
 However, I've read much on the subject and many of those complications are totally preventable. For instance, if a woman is overweight, has high blood pressure, or other risk factors BEFORE she gets pregnant, she's probably more likely to have pregnancy complications.

Here's a good article on that very subject:

40-plus: Picture-perfect pregnancies

But enough about that. Today I want to comment on the joys of being an older mom. I did worry about being mistaken for my daughter's grandmother, but as it turns out, I'm frequently asked, "Are you having another?". I'm in better shape than I was in my 20's and I learned how to eat so well when I was trying to conceive that it has helped me to stay fit and healthy.

I have so much patience and I'm mature enough not to fall into the whole "competitive mother" syndrome where mothers use their children to boost their self esteem boasting that their kid is bigger, brighter, and more advanced than everyone elses. I have no hidden agendas for my daughter because I've already accomplished everything I wanted to do in my life.

Us older moms probably had to try a litter harder to get pregnant, but I honestly think we appreciate more the miracle of pregnancy, birth, and life. A day doesn't go by when don't I marvel in what we created. It was worth the six years of trying, the six failed pregnancies, and the emotional turmoil. Keep your eye on the goal. Your past failures don't predict your future success.

Friday, October 13, 2006

Fertility Patients - Beware

I found an article about how women and couples should beware when undergoing fertility treatments:


Fertility Innovation or Exploitation?


Here is a short excerpt from The Washington Post article:

"...more than 1,000 women undergo in vitro fertilization procedures every week in this country, and countless others receive other kinds of fertility treatments. And at least some of the recent exciting breakthroughs in reproductive medicine, critics say, have been the result of ethically questionable practices, in which women served as subjects in ill-defined research projects or their eggs or embryos were sidetracked to laboratories without the donors' knowledge, to be used in experiments and eventually tossed in the garbage..."

If you plan to undergo fertility treatments, ask a lot of questions about success rates and exactly how your specimens will be used.

Thursday, October 12, 2006

Which Fertilty Tests and Treatments Have Been Proven Effective?

I found this article which talks about which fertility tests and treatments have really been proven to be effective. This article is a few years old, but it was a real eye opener for me. The study to which the article refers was done by The Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists in the UK:

Infertility tests and therapies questioned

The article gives some good advice:

"When choosing an assisted conception unit, people should look at the success rates, cost and location, and ensure that they see a specialist doctor".

Tuesday, October 10, 2006

A Break From Infertility

Sometimes we all need to step back from the trials and tribulations of day to day life. We all have our struggles and it's easy to get so caught up in what we have or don't have that we forget to sit back and get "recentered".

I received an e-mail about this website with daily uplifting messages. I've only been on the mailing list a short time, but so far I've found it very helpful. Visit this link if you're interested and you may sign up to receive a daily "morning message":

www.MorningMessages.com

Friday, October 06, 2006

Male Factor Infertility

It seems there is so much information on the web and elsewhere on female infertility, pregnancy and miscarriage. I'm surprised we don't see more about male infertility. Here is a link to Science Daily which gives some good information about male factor infertility since almost as many couples have problems on the male side rather than the female side. You can either read the transcript or watch the video:

Treating Severe Cases of Male Infertility

This video/transcript talks about everything from hormonal problems to blocked tubes (yes, men have tubes too!) to treatments for male factor infertility. Great Resource!

Friday, September 29, 2006

More On The Low Rate Of IVF Success

I found this interesting article which, again, supports trying to get pregnant by natural means. IVF is still a rather "hit and miss' procedure - even though it's been around for almost 30 years, there's still quite a low success rate:

85 out of 100 embryos wasted

As I've said before, I wish I had thought twice about jumping into fertility treatments. My embryos became just another statistic.

Trust your own body. Treat it well and it is capable of amazing things - even making a baby!

Wednesday, September 13, 2006

Pregnancy After 40 - We Don't Take It For Granted

Pregnancy After 40, Get Pregnant Naturally

I recall a time when I was trying to conceive after a number of miscarriages.  Of course I was a bit sensitive about anything dealing with pregnancy.

My site: http://www.getpregnantover40.com

 I was at my health club and one of the exercise instructors was about 7 months pregnant. She starts rambling on about how she was pregnant with her third child:
"Gee we already have two boys, we thought we'd try for a girl"...she says as she's doing jumping jacks with her pregnant belly bulging through her leotard.

People Who Are Not Dealing With Infertility Don't Understand Not Being Able To Get Pregnant

Just like that huh?? You ungrateful little %$#@%$!! I thought. Oh, how some people don't appreciate what they have. She had no idea how lucky she was (especially since she was 40ish) I certainly wouldn't be doing jumping jacks either!(When I was pregnant, I was afraid to sneeze).

Anyway, the nice thing about pregnancy after 40 and pregnancy after infertility is that we don't take what we have for granted. So how do you deal with these ungrateful people? Well, my years of experience with life in general have taught me that everyone has their issues in life. Their struggles are not the same as yours but they have them. I'm not saying you should take pleasure if other people go through hard times, but it really does you no good to feel envious of someone else's life when you really can't know everything about their situation. Just know that infertility will make you enjoy every moment of your pregnancy and every moment with your future child.

Tuesday, September 12, 2006

Assisted Reproduction Success Rates Are Nothing to Brag About

Because of my previous failed attempts at IVF and the complications I suffered as a result of the procedures, I'm obviously an advocate of conceiving via the natural route. Here is another article that seems to support my viewpoint:

Infertility Treatments- Weighing the Risks and Benefits


I am a perfect example of someone who should have been more diligent about evaluating my options. I experienced some major complications after fertility treatments including ectopic pregnancy (a potentially life threatening condition) as well as hyperstimulation of my ovaries. Now that I have hindsight, it scares me to think about all the abuse my body endured when all I really needed was to get healthy and give myself time to conceive. In addition we spent $25,000 only to walk away worse off than we started. Fertility treatments are a gamble and the odds are against you.

Assisted reproduction may be the answer for some couples and in all fairness I do know many couples who probably wouldn't have had children without them. But if you fall into the unexplained category or if age is your only issue, evaluate if you've done everything you can short of fertility treatments. You may be surprised at the results.

Thursday, August 31, 2006

Can You Prevent Miscarriage?

I had six miscarriages before finally carrying my last pregnancy to term. I continually asked myself, "Is there something I could have done?" You try not to blame yourself, but it's hard since all of this is happening inside your body!

Well, I have read and I do believe that once a miscarriage starts, there's probably nothing you can do to stop it. All the bedrest in the world isn't going to reverse a miscarriage that's already in motion. However, I do believe that you may be less likely to have a miscarriage if your body is in its optimal condition BEFORE you conceive. I previously posted an article about how stress hormones can contribute to less than optimal conditions for pregnancy (and how they contribute to miscarriage). Here is a good article that gives some good nutritional information as it relates to miscarriage and preventing miscarriage:

Miscarriage

Treat yourself right before you conceive. Not only will it help you get pregnant and carry to term, but it will also teach you the good habits you'll need while your pregnant and the rest of your life.

Wednesday, August 23, 2006

Does IVF Result In A Higher Rate of Abnormalities?

When my husband and I were undergoing fertility treatments, I frequently worried about whether or not there would be complications with my future pregnancy or with my baby. I'm a bit of a worrywart to begin with, but I may have had a good reason to be concerned. Here is an article that explains more:

How Do IVF Babies Turn Out?
Fertility specialists confront disturbing evidence


I don't recall my doctor explaining anything about possible abnormalities. I was cautioned that there could be multiples, but that's about it. It seems that we find out more as the years go by. Even though the first "test tube" baby (as they called it back then) was born in the late 70's, assisted reproduction is still a relatively new medical specialty. All these women who are undergoing fertility procedures now are still testing the waters. It seems that wide spread studies of IVF and other fertility procedures' outcomes is just getting underway.

After having a number of complications associated with my failed fertility treatments, it's no secret that I'm an advocate of the "natural route". I do know that some couples have no choice but to undergo assisted reproduction, but I still caution everyone to do your own research and ask a lot of questions.

Monday, August 21, 2006

Survived Disney World and Gained New Perspectives on Getting Pregnant

New Perspective On Pregnancy Over 40

Ok, it wasn't so bad (in my previous post I commented on how I swore I'd never go back to Disney World.) I should mention that one of the attractions we hit twice was...you guessed it..."It's A Small World"---just when I thought I had that song out of my head....my daughter loved it.

My site: www.getpregnantover40.com

Anyway it got me thinking about this strange thing that happens between me and my daughter who just turned 3. Sometimes I have a tune going around in my head and all of a sudden she starts humming or singing it. Many times it's something we haven't heard for months or a song we've only heard once. It's the weirdest thing...I think she can read my mind.

I know this sounds a little "out there", but along those same lines, I truly believe my daughter communicated with me before she was ever conceived. That's probably one reason I absolutely would not give up on trying to get pregnant. I could feel her hovering over me. I had to give her life - I truly believe that she picked me as her mother. It didn't matter what the doctors said or how far into my 40's I was, I knew I was going to get pregnant. So if you're in the same boat, don't give up. Only you know what's right for you. Trust your instincts and listen to those voices in your head--they may be giving you a glimpse of your future.

Friday, August 11, 2006

First Post Pregnancy Vacation..off to Disney World

It was always so annoying when I heard other people talk about their kids and their wonderful family vacations when I was trying to get pregnant. It was very painful to hear about all the fun things they were going to do with their kids while I was stuck in infertility quicksand.

I'm trying not to do that here, but I'd like to at least mention that I will be off for a week for vacation (by the way, we haven't taken one for four years). Off to Disney World - a place I swore I'd never go back to (all the piped in music and characters drove me nuts not to mention I had "it's a small world" stuck in my head for weeks afterwards.) Now we have to deal with the heightened airport security on top of it. Hope I don't sound unappreciative for everything I have - believe me, I've learned to appreciate the smallest of blessings. Well I'm hoping Disney World is better the second time around - especially with a little one in tow. It's times like this I realize that infertility isn't forever.

I remember people telling me that infertility will resolve itself one way or the other. Either you'll get pregnant, adopt, or move on to childfree. Now I can vouch for the fact that they were right. Just about the time when I was at peace with moving on to childfree, I got pregnant with my daughter. I guess you could say I had a double resolution.

Anyway, hang in there. You never know what's around the next corner - you too could be off to Disney World in the very near future.

Tuesday, August 08, 2006

Do Those Miscarried Souls Return?

I've talked to a number of women who've experienced miscarriage or recurrent miscarriage. When these women do succeed in having a baby, many wonder if one of their miscarried baby's souls "came back" into their baby.

Obviously my official answer to this is "I don't know". All I can give you is my experience and my opinion. Before my daughter was born, while I was pregnant with her, she moved around like crazy. I would feel her kick more than 40 times in one hour. After she was born she was and still is VERY active and has a real zest for life. She wants to participate in everything and she isn't one that needs a lot of reassurance or cuddling (I wish she liked to cuddle more). I think one reason she picked me as her mother (and I think she did pick me) is she knew that I had the maturity and patience to deal with her strong personality. I frequently joke around and say "Any baby that can survive in my uterus must be pretty strong willed".

So in answer to whether or not one of my six miscarried babies came back as my daughter, I would have to say no. I think my daughter held on so tight there's no way I could have ever lost her pregnancy. I'm not saying that my babies who miscarried didn't have the will to live (and I try not to blame myself for not being able to give them life), it's just that my "gut" feeling is that they were all different souls.

I often wonder where they are and who they are. My daughter would have loved a sibling (and we're so happy with one, we never even cosidered having another). Maybe we'll all meet again someday.

Saturday, August 05, 2006

Important Information About Preventing Premature Delivery

As I have mentioned in some previous posts, when I finally became pregant I was very concerned not only that I might miscarry, but also that I might deliver prematurely. I certainly don't recommend being as paranoid as I was, but it never hurts to do all you can to have a healthy pregnancy. Here are a couple of good articles on the subject:

How to Avoid Having a Premature Delivery


Lack of Vitamin C May Trigger Premature Delivery


As it turns out I did not deliver prematurely - but I also did a number of things that these articles suggest. Maybe that's why.

Friday, August 04, 2006

Pregnancy Over 40

Pregnancy Over 40, The Trials and Tribulations

After years of struggling with infertility and miscarriage, I finally conceived my daughter. I had a perfectly normal pregnancy and a perfectly normal delivery at the age of 44.

My site: http://www.getpregnantover40.com

 But I have to admit, I was scared out of my mind. I guess I was overeducated on the subject of "pregnancy over 40". Unfortunately, there is so much negative information out there that I was sure I was going to have gestational diabetes, preeclampsia, premature delivery or a c-section. Even if my pregnancy made it all the way through, I was petrified of having a baby with chromosomal abnormalities, birth defects, or some other horrific abnormality.

I Was Just Another Normal Pregnancy and Pregnant Woman Who Just Happened To Be 44


Isn't that a shame? I spent so many years trying to get pregnant and when I finally succeeded, I was gripped with terror the entire time. My well-meaning doctors didn't help matters any. I had numerous ultrasounds, consultations with perinatologists, and I was monitored out the "ying yang"! As hard as they tried, they just couldn't find anything wrong. Much to everyone's surprise, I was just another normal pregnant women who just happened to be 44!

The moral of the story? Be as healthy as you can be. Getting pregnant over the age of 40, can be a perfectly normal and healthy experience. The same good advice applies to women of all ages. Eat well, watch your weight, drink lots of water, and get plenty of rest. Oh, by the way, be careful what you read!

Saturday, July 22, 2006

Fertility: An Ounce Of Prevention....

We all know how the old saying goes...and ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. Probably when most of us over-40 people were younger, we didn't think too much about preserving our fertility. Many of us were part of a generation when birth control was the big advance in reproductive medicine, not fertility treatments! It wasn't until we all got older that the research was actually done on how our environment and bad habits could affect fertility that most of us stood up and took notice.

But, now that we know better, it's our job to educate the younger generation who may want to delay parenthood. I'm not saying they shouldn't, but I don't think the 20 year olds worry too much about whether the cigarettes they smoke, the toxins they're exposed to, and the future stress they may encounter is going to affect whether or not they can have a baby. I continually am talking to my nieces about all of the research I've done and what they should and should not do to protect their future. And even though they probably think..."There goes Aunt Sandy again"... I also know by things they've said that they are listening.

We should all protect young people by giving them the information we know. They truly are our future and so is their ability to have kids!

Friday, July 21, 2006

What's She Got That I Don't? TTC over 40

Trying To Get Pregnant Over 40, Jealousy Toward Pregnant Women

Excuse my poor grammar, but that was a question I used to ask myself all the time.
My site: www.getpregnantover40.com
 I would see pregnant women or I would hear of friends, family, etc. getting pregnant. I would always wonder, "What's she got that I don't?"

Your self esteem takes a beating when you can't conceive or if you get pregnant only to miscarry or miscarry repeatedly. You start to wonder if this is your punishment for leading a bad life, or if you're just not worthy of being a parent. I went through all those emotions. I started to view myself as some kind of "second class" citizen. One who has only a limited number of privileges unlike all the "first class" citzens who get to have the finer things in life.

I firmly believe that these feelings start a vicious cycle which can spiral out of control. Your initial failure leads to a negative mindset, and a negative mindset leads to failure. So what's a person to do?


    Know that it may take time to conceive. Just because you're having trouble conceiving now, it doesn't mean that you will never have a baby. I've known so many couples who conceived naturally given time. Know that you are not being punished and you are not a second class citizen. Some of the nicest, most generous people I've known have struggled with infertility. Think of this as a journey. Everyone will succeed on their own schedule. Maintain a positive mindset. There's nothing wrong with feeling anger and disappointment. Scream, cry, and get it out of your system. This will help you release the emotions that spiral into a vicious cycle that a negative mindset can create. Know that your baby is on the way. Let them come on their own schedule.

Monday, July 17, 2006

Having A Baby Over 40, A Well Rounded Perspective

Women Who Have A Baby Over 40 Have Smarter, Less Accident Prone Kids

I rarely find good, well rounded articles about pregnancy over 40 or over-40 motherhood, but here's one that I thought gave a nice plug to women over 40.
My site: www.getpregnantover40.com
 Their kids are healthier and more intelligent! The findings are actually based on research of kids born to older women.   So, if you have a baby over 40, you're in good company!   Read more:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2147848/Children-mothers-40-healthier-intelligent.html

From the article

He said: ‘We have clear evidence that there are more desirable outcomes for children of older mothers compared with younger ages. We can reassure these older women that their children are probably better off
The research also checked a number of outcomes linked to parenting skills, including naming vocabulary, picture and shapes identification and developmental IQ using established British assessment scales.
The findings showed greater ability among children born to older mothers once social class was taken into acco


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The research also checked a number of outcomes linked to parenting skills, including naming vocabulary, picture and shapes identification and developmental IQ using established British assessment scales.
The findings showed greater ability among children born to older mothers once social class was taken into accont

He said: ‘We have clear evidence that there are more desirable outcomes for children of older mothers compared with younger ages. We can reassure these older women that their children are probably better off

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He said: ‘We have clear evidence that there are more desirable outcomes for children of older mothers compared with younger ages. We can reassure these older women that their children are probably better off.’

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He said: ‘We have clear evidence that there are more desirable outcomes for children of older mothers compared with younger ages. We can reassure these older women that their children are probably better off.’

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He said: ‘We have clear evidence that there are more desirable outcomes for children of older mothers compared with younger ages. We can reassure these older women that their children are probably better off.’

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Thursday, July 13, 2006

Don't Tell Me I Can't Have a Baby!

Well...let me clarify that a bit. Nobody ever came right out and said that I couldn't have a baby, but the message was definitely there. Whenever I was at one of my dreaded GYN or RE visits following one of my miscarriages, I would get yet another depressing lecture about the chance of chromosomal abnormalities at my age which leads to a higher miscarriage rate.

Honestly, except for one miscarriage, the fetal tissue was never examined. So there's no way anyone could know if I miscarried because of a chromosomal problem. The one time I had genetic testing on the fetal tissue (I had a D & C after one miscarriage), it was normal! So there!

I believe my problem was hormonal - even if some of my failed pregnancies had chromosomal problems, that doesn't mean all my eggs were bad. I believe through all natural methods, I was able to correct my hormonal imbalances which eventually led to the birth of my daughter.

The moral of the story: Dont let anyone tell you that you can't have a baby!

Friday, July 07, 2006

HAVING A BABY OVER 40? 40 IS THE NEW 30

You Can Have A Baby Over 40

So you want a baby over the age of 40? Every generation is delaying their childbearing even later than the previous generation. That means that statistically, Generation "X" is waiting longer than the "Baby Boomers", and the "Echoboomers" - or "Generation Y" will probably wait longer than Generation X.

SEE ALSO: GETPREGNANTOVER40.COM FOR MORE ECOURAGING INFORMATION ON PREGNANCY OVER 40 NATURALLY

I fall into the "Baby Boomer" generation. We're all now in our 40's and 50's. We've been defined by all sorts of things...i.e. Beach Blanket Bingo (if you don't know what that is, you may be too young to be reading this!), the Hippie Movement, the Women's Movement, and maybe even a little "Madonna" (who happens to be exactly my age - as well as another over-40 mom). Even though many women of my generation delayed their childbearing, many had kids in their 20's. I ran into an old high school classmate not too long ago. She has a daughter in her late 20's and some of her grandkids are older than my daughter!

Having A Baby Over 40 - No Regrets

I don't regret waiting to have a baby. Even though some of my peer group thinks I'm crazy, I thoroughly enjoy being an older parent. I do get some rude remarks like: "Why would anyone want a baby at your age?", or "I can't imagine getting pregnant again now." Those remarks just roll off my back now. This is my life, and only I can decide what's right for me. I would have been a TERRIBLE mother in my 20's. I'm so patient now and I don't have any hidden agendas for my daughter. Since I've already accomplished everything I wanted to do in my life, I'm not trying to live my dreams through her.  As I've said before, if you raise your kids right (older couples actually have been shown to be better parents) they are easier to raise!

If you're over 40 and trying to conceive, don't feel alone. You really are in good company.

Friday, June 30, 2006

Infertility and My View on The View

If you watch TV you most certainly have heard something about Star Jones' exit from the television show, "The View". Honestly, I don't watch much TV, but in the morning I usually have The View chattering in the background. I was really suprised about all the events that occured this week. I've always liked both Barbara Walters and Star Jones. It's kind of sad to see what I thought was a good working relationship go so bad.

Why do I bring this up here? Well it reminds me why I left the corporate world. I saw many hard working people put a good part of their adult life into a company only to be let go or laid off on what seemed to be a whim. I'm sure there's always more to the story than most people know, but the bottom line is that a job is a job. The only people you can really count on are your family and close friends. I have my infertility to thank for getting me away from a job that was eating away at my health (both physical and mental). I decided to quit my job when we were going through fertility treatments - I absolutely couldn't take the stress of both! Thankfully, it was my decision to leave my job, but I bet if I stayed long enough I might another casualty.

Don't let your job be the number one priority in your life. Climbing the corporate ladder leads to an empty existence. If you're trying to conceive, the stress of your job may be contributing to your infertility. I know that I would have never conceived naturally working in the "corporate pressure cooker".

Tuesday, June 20, 2006

More On The Environment and Miscarriage

Here is another article about how a toxic environment can cause or contribute to miscarriage.

Pesticides linked to miscarriage

Yesterday I posted an article about how plastic may be a factor in recurrent miscarriage. Pesticide exposure is a little harder to control, but at least if you're aware of it, you might be able to avoid it to the greatest degree possible.

Friday, June 16, 2006

Natural Conception and Pregnancy over 40... Don't Miss the Obvious

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It seems that many women who are in their late 30's and 40's have heard so much about how they're going to have trouble getting pregnant that they run to the nearest fertility clinic before giving mother nature a real chance.   There are so many things you can do to enhance your fertility naturally. Have you done all you can do short of assisted reproduction?

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 I wish I had done my research before I started fertility treatments! Deep down, I knew I could get pregnant, but unfortunately I didn't trust my inner voice. As a result I put myself through the physical pain and rigors of fertility treatments only to find out I had it in me all along. Don't make the same mistake I did. Give your body what it needs to succeed - you may be surprised what you're capable of!

I have numerous articles on my website (see center column toward the bottom of the page) of women who conceived naturally after IVF or women who were over 40, labeled "too old" then conceived naturally.


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Monday, June 05, 2006

More Encouragement for Pregnancy Over 40

Pregnancy Over 40 Is Totally Possible

There's so much negative information out there about "Pregnancy Over 40".
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 If you pick your favorite search engine online and enter that phrase, you are bombarded with complications, dismal statistics, and chromosomal abnormalities and other birth defects.

Now...wait just a minute....I conceived naturally and had a perfectly healthy pregnancy at the age of 44. I know of many other women over 40 who did too.  Before the days of birth control and tubal ligations, it was quite commonplace for women to have babies well into their 40's and some in their 50's.  There is a website that is compiling stories of pregnancy and birth for women who are in their 40's:

Stories of Pregnancy and Birth Over 44

If you're getting discouraged, read through some of these stories. Women over 40 can be quite fertile indeed!

Here's another article for more encouragement:

40-plus: Picture-perfect pregnancies

Next time you're surfing the web, be selective about what you read. Positive information helps to maintain a positive mindset. A positive mindset will help you succeed.

Saturday, June 03, 2006

Ectopic Pregnancy

 Pregnancy Over 40 - Ectopic Pregnancy

One of the most devastating experiences I went through was having an ectopic pregnancy (actually, I had two).
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 Most ectopic pregnancies occur in the fallopian tube, and occasionally, the tube can be salvaged, but more often than not, the damage to the tube is so severe, it must be surgically taken out. If you can catch the ectopic early enough, it is possible to treat it medically. My first ectopic had to be removed laparoscopically, however for my second, I was given a drug called "Methotrexate" which stops the pregnancy from growing in the tube so it can expel naturally.

Aside from the inevitable depression that follows most miscarriages (I've read that up to 70% of women suffer some form of depression following a miscarriage), If you're over 40, and have had an ectopic pregnancy, you are most likely saying to yourself, "I don't have time for this! You want to try again right away, but you're still recovering from surgery. When I was going through fertility treatments, my doctor told me I had to wait until I had 3 full menstrual cycles before we could try again. What??? Three Months???That sounded like an eternity. Even if your ectopic pregnancy is treated medically with Methotrexate, you are warned not to concieve for a full three months after being given this drug because it could cause birth defects if you conceive while it is in your system.

If you are trying to get pregnant naturally, you feel like the removal of one of your fallopian tubes is a major setback because it can essentially cut your chances of conceiving in half. But as long as you still have one tube, you can still get pregnant. Interestingly, my mother's first pregnancy was ectopic and she went on to have three children. And, even though I was over the age of 40, I conceived 4 times with only one fallopian tube. So, optimally it would great to have both tubes, but you can still do just fine with one.

So, what should you do if you've had an ectopic pregnancy?

    Don't think this is the end of the world. Yes, it is a setback, but as long as you still have one functioning tube, you can still get pregnant.

    Take care of yourself. Know that you can try again. Even if you're in your 40's, just the fact that you got pregnant should be encouraging. You can use this 3 months before you try again to get your body ready. Eat foods that promote hormonal balance and overall health. Mentally go through the greiving process so you're receptive to trying again.

    Get emotional support. Join a support group, or join an on-line support forum. There are many women out there who've gone through this experience. It is very comforting to talk to others who know what you're going through. It's also encouraging to see others in your situation succeed.

Wednesday, May 31, 2006

Dealing With Recurrent Miscarriage

Pregnancy Over 40 Is Possible After Miscarriage and Recurrent Miscarriage

"What a cruel universe we live in..." I used to say that I lot when I would feel the elation of becoming pregnant only to be slammed down when I lost it.
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 I went through this six times before conceiving my duaghter. My first two miscarriages were twins I conceived through IVF. One got stuck in my fallopian tube, the other died in my uterus. I was absolutely devastated and then I had to go through surgery to remove my left tube. It took me months to get over it.

After losing a third pregnancy, I came to the realization that getting pregnant was going to be a little harder than I thought (in retrospect, that was an understatement!) I've noticed a pattern in my life--if I don't succeed at something right away, it's usually a long drawn out difficult "learning" experience. Because I had gone through other challenges in my life and eventually succeeded, I had to believe that I could overcome this like everything else. I had to believe that the next one was going to make it.

I've heard the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Well, in some ways I guess I fit the bill, but in actuality I did do things differently each time. When I was trying to concieve I began reading and researching natural methods of enhancing fertility. I began the process of developing and refining a "pregnancy protocol". I continually added things with each pregnancy until I finally succeeded.

If you're having a problem with recurrent miscarriage, you have to believe that the next one is the one. You have to believe that you can overcome this challenge like many challenges that have come before. In many ways, I think my unshakable belief that I could get pregnant and carry to term was a key piece of my success.

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