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Thursday, June 22, 2017


I have known about the benefits of green vegetables for quite some time.  But I keep running into more information about wheatgrass and how it can benefit your overall health.  As far as fertility, wheatgrass has a number of benefits.  First of all, if you are familiar with how certain foods are more alkaline vs. acidic, sperm thrive more in an alkaline environment.  Additionally, wheatgrass can detoxify the body in both men and women and it can aide in hormone production.  Read more here:


Monday, June 19, 2017


Trying To Get Pregnant Over 40, How Much To Share?

Part of the time that I was trying to conceive, I was working in the corporate world.
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 I finally came to my senses and quit my high stress job which, I believe, was a key piece of my success. Yes, it was hard to give up the "golden shackles" which had accumulated over the 19 years I worked for the company, but having a baby was the absolute number one priority in my life at that time.

Anyway, I realize that not all women can just up and leave their jobs. This brings up a lot of questions about how much you should disclose to your employer. I've written before about telling your parents about your infertility, but if you are pursuing fertilty treatments, you are going to be needing time off from work and many times it's hard to predict when. This applies to men too
(afterall, they contribute 50% to the equation). Here is an article about disclosing information

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Disclosing information to co-workers and/or subordinates can be another sticky wicket. I recall a manager I previously worked with (long before I was trying to get pregnant) and she was very open with her employees about her infertility. One disgruntled (pregnant) employee filed a complaint against her saying that this manager was treating her badly because she was jealous of her pregnancy. I'm sure this complaint was totally unfounded, but it just goes to show you how cruel some people can be.

I always considered my reproductive health extremely sensitive and private information. I told very few people. That's one reason I recommend a support group. It's a safe and confidential place to "let it all out".

Sunday, June 18, 2017



We all know that it takes two to get pregnant and society is now recognizing the importance of fathers for families and kids.  Single parent homes (which are usually headed up by women) generally have higher poverty rates and kids who perform lower in school and have more behavioral problems.  I often forget how much my husband helped me through all the rough times...not just infertility, but also having a successful pregnancy and how my husband helped me through the fear that something was going to go wrong,


I usually write about infertility and miscarriage from a woman's point of view.  But in honor of Father's Day, there's another important piece of the puzzle and that is how your husband and your
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relationship is fairing through infertility.  I recall when my husband and I were going through fertility treatments.  I was on so many different fertility drugs and hormone shots that I was pretty much a raving lunatic.  What do you expect when you are pumping yourself up with all those chemicals?  My husband used to think PMS was bad...

Even after our failed IVF's when we decided just to try naturally, it was a rollercoaster ride every month.  It would start around the time of ovulation where intercourse was mandatory (UGGGGHHH) and it would end with the anger and tears when either the pregnancy test was negative or I got my period.

Stay the course.  Take care of each other.  When that test finally comes out positive, you will know that it was all worth it.  My husband and I also had to deal with recurrent miscarriage.  But, even through it all, I just knew deep down that I would succeed (and that's probably why I did).  When all is said and done, the rollercoaster ride won't seem so crazy, it becomes a distant memory.  Let the hard times strengthen your relationship.  When you celebrate Father's Day for real, your child/children will truly appreciate parents that 'kept it together'.

Thursday, June 15, 2017


With vacation season upon us, I thought I'd write about how vacations may be a fun way of achieving your goal of having a baby.  I certainly wish we would have spent all the money we put into failed fertility treatments on a relaxing and memorable vacation.  I've read many articles about how there does seem to be evidence that couples have a higher rate of conceiving while they are on vacation.  Of course nobody knows for sure why but here are some possible reasons:
  • Aside from the stress of getting through an airport, vacations (at least the "kick back" kind) are a time when couples can really relax for an extended period and let their troubles go.  A different environment can also help you not think about the normal day to day problems that
    typically arise at home.
  • Sunshine - most relaxing vacations involve sunlight exposure.  There is some evidence that regular sun exposure can help the sleep cycle which is important for fertility, but it can also help regulate ovulation.  On top of that, you'll be getting a good dose of vitamin D which is important for fertility in both men and women.
  • Time for frequent intercourse.  Many couples forget that unless you're going through fertility treatments, there's only one way to get pregnant - good old fashioned intercourse.  Even if you're not going through your most fertile time, many women can spontaneously ovulate (which is why the rhythm method may not work!)  Also, sperm can live up to 7 days in some cases!
Here is an article about a resort that offers "procreation vacations":

 The Five Gables keeps a light touch and sense of humor about it, including playing Barry White tunes on the stereo, but Lesher says she suspects some customers are too embarrassed to sign up for the conception package and may instead opt for the hotel's "Romantic Package."
The Marco Island Marriott Beach Resort in Marco Island, Florida, offers the similarly silly-sounding "Fertile Turtle" package, which includes a room with gulf views, a king-size bed and a private balcony. The hotel also keeps guests supplied with fertility-enhancing red clover and raspberry teas, and incorporates a massage with chaste berry, which is purported to help stimulate the pituitary gland and boost fertility. 

Tuesday, June 13, 2017


Natural Pregnancy After Failed Fertility Treatments

It seems like everyone knows someone who went through the rigors of fertility treatments then got pregnant naturally. Many couples have one baby, but then get pregnant with their second baby by surprise. Frequently, couples who undergo fertility treatments are diagnosed with "unexplained fertility" which basically means that nobody really knows why they are not getting pregnant (or they just blame it on their age).  If you are familiar with my story, I went through two cycles of IVF, ending tragically in miscarriage and ectopic pregnancies (and the removal of one of my fallopian tubes).  Against all odds, I conceived my daughter the good old fashioned way and had her naturally at the age of 44.

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This is why I focus so much on lifestyle changes. Sometimes, the smallest things can bring your body
back into sync and set the conditions right before your try to conceive. Additionally, preventing miscarriage occurs before you conceive as well. If your hormones are balanced, you will have the right amount of uterine lining, the right levels of estrogen and progesterone to support a pregnancy and so on.

Here is another article about couples conceiving naturally after IVF:

 An even simpler explanation is that some women are rushing into assisted reproductive technology and that given more time, they might have gotten pregnant on their own. Much about infertility and its roots is still a mystery, and to have a baby, the complex processes of ovulation and fertilization need to go just so. Around one-third of infertility cases are traced to female problems, such as ovulation disorders and structural complications; one-third stem from male problems like deficiencies in sperm count and ability to swim; and one-third are due to both partners, or are unexplained.
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Saturday, June 10, 2017


Abraham-Hicks On The Law Of Attraction

Not being able to get pregnant is sooooo frustrating. You see others have their children and move on with their seemingly normal happy lives. You sit there feeling like an unworthy second class citizen who just doesn't make the grade.

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Somehow, you got a raw deal - you're a victim of circumstance - you got put into the remedial fertility group. Have you ever felt that way? Early in my fertility journey I felt that way all the time. But then I remembered about a series of tapes I ordered years ago. My sister told me about Jerry and Esther Hicks who held seminars and distributed audio tapes on the teachings of Abraham.
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If you've seen or read "The Secret", Esther Hicks was part of that series. When I saw "The Secret" I was so happy to see her featured because I felt like I personally knew her from her tapes (which I had been listening to since the early 1990's.) When I was trying to conceive, I realized that these tapes could help me so I found them packed away in my basement and started listening to them again. They make you realize that you are in control of your life. You attract what you want by your thoughts. Anything is possible and you're not a victim of anything.
Yes, I know tapes are obsolete now, but they have plenty of recordings you can listen to for free on Youtube.

Does this mean that you'll get pregnant naturally? I don't know, but it certainly will help you attract a baby into your life by whatever means is right for you.
Somehow, when your thoughts are positive and consistent with what you want, things seem to fall into place.

Wednesday, June 07, 2017


Pain During Ovulation

Mittleschmerz!!  No, that's not what you say when someone sneezes - but it might be what you say when someone ovulates. Mittleschmerz translated literally means "middle pain" usually associated with ovulation.
I always considered myself lucky when I was TTC that I did experience mittleschmerz because I knew we were on target with our intercourse schedule (and it was a schedule back then). Here is an article that explains more about mittleschmerz (it also addresses why some women may have some spotting around the time of ovulation):

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"The pain is thought to be due to accompanying slight bleeding into the linings of the wall of the pelvis called the peritoneum.

Free blood in contact with the peritoneum causes irritation, transmitted as mid-cycle pain.

The bleeding may even track out as vaginal very small vaginal spotting.

The pain is usually in the lower abdomen, right or left side depending on which side an egg is released from.

The pain could be so specific that a woman may be able to tell from which ovary she has released an egg for that month. It may be severe enough to cause disruptions of normal day to day activities."


Monday, June 05, 2017


Uterine Massage and Lift Technique To Help Get Pregnant Over 40
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Here is an interesting article about how many women have uterine displacement. This site is promoting their massage techniques to help correct this problem, but they have some interesting information about how the female organs can get out of place. Also, my DVD, "Fertility Bodywork" has a segment on pelvic massage including the uterine lift. Read more:

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From the article:

With so many women suffering from dysmenorrhea, we wondered how uterine massage could help. Verna said that the prostaglandins which are cited as the pain inducing culprits are in fact pro-inflammatory chemical prostaglandins PG 1 and 2. “If there is venous stasis,” she explained, “everything gets boggy. The lymph is not draining so you have a swampy area which is more prone to inflammation and the bad prostaglandins.” She went on to say that if the uterus is not sitting right, there are mechanical reasons for it to get “clogged” and “boggy”. The arteries leading to and from the uterus can get torqued. Where the uterus is supposed to be doing this gentle contracting (Verna did a smooth wave with her body) when it is misplaced or there is inflammation, “it’s like trying to hork up a hairball”. This is a combination of inflammation, poor drainage and poor blood flow.

According to Verna, the Maya say, “If a woman’s uterus is not in the right place, she can’t think right.” Verna adds that it is the centre of a woman’s creative energy.

What about endometriosis? Verna explained that 40% of the blood in the body goes through the lymph channels. When the lymph is not draining, “you are a sewer”. With endo, the technique might help once things are draining better. Verna has seen uteruses in a position (she leans over demonstrating) where the fascia between the outside of the uterus and the outside of the bladder are stuck together. You have to be very gentle, she says – “kind of like moving egg yolks around”. The uterus can go back, forward or sideways. The Fallopian tube (one arm now simulates a crushed tube) can get moved out of position. “Try getting pregnant with that!” Verna says the body “moves out of the way” of an affected organ for survival. She illustrates with the example of a person who has a heart attack and breaks their leg at the same time. “The leg won’t hurt, but the heart muscle sure will. Probably, a few days later, when the cast is on, that leg will hurt like hell. The body prioritizes.”

“What’s exciting,” she says, “is that the technique is quite easy and has potential to be so helpful”.

Friday, June 02, 2017


Trying To Conceive Over 40

Research seems to show that more women delay childbearing because they haven't found Mr. Right instead of delaying childbearing because they were on the career track. I would say for many women (maybe most women) it's a combination of both of these factors. Climbing the corporate ladder or devoting time to your education and career doesn't leave much time or opportunity to date and meet that special someone. I know that was true in my case. There are only so many hours in the day, and when you have to get up and run to work early every morning, you certainly don't feel like going out in the evenings. Most of the people you meet are through work and the few times I dated men I worked with, I was always sorry. It creates an uncomfortable work environment when you stop dating.

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Your social circle seems to shrink as you get older. Your friends have already gotten married and
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started their own families. It's hard to get out there and build your social life again. I found that I actually had to join singles groups with organized activities (which, by the way, is how I met my husband)to jump start my life outside of work.

If I had to do it all over again, I would have paid more attention to my social life and less attention on my career. My high stress job (which I worked in for 19 years before leaving) left me physically and emotionally stressed out. I believe this high level of stress added up over the years resulting in hormonal imbalances, physical ailments and ultimately infertility. I also wasted many of my younger days convincing myself that I didn't want to get married or have children -- a by-product of a less-than-perfect upbringing in a household where my parents were totally mismatched.

So, at least in my case, delayed childbearing was a mixture of all work, no play, and, social neglect. I'd love to turn back the clock and start over again with the benefit of hindsight, but all in all, everything turned out for the best. It was a long hard road, but a learned a lot along the way. Even though it took me until the age of 44 to become a mother, all of my heartache through infertility and miscarriage taught me how to value the things that are really important. Besides, all my friends who married and had children when they were younger had a different set of problems. They stuggled financially, some divorced, and some had challenges raising their kids. Life is a series of learning experiences - I think we all learn similar things in different ways and we all choose our own path.

Wednesday, May 31, 2017


Pregnancy Over 40, Unexplained Infertility Means They Don't Know

Many women/couples have a diagnosis of "unexplained infertility". You may wonder, what does that mean? basically means nobody knows why you're not getting pregnant.
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The difficult part about being over 40 is that it is very tempting for the medical community, in absence of any other diagnosis, to blame it on your age. Okay, I admit, it probably does take a woman over 40 longer to conceive, but studies have shown that many women/couples with unexplained infertility will conceive in the second year of trying rather than the first.

If you suffer from recurrent miscarriage, that's another ball game. Try to get one of these doctors to tell you why you're miscarrying! My experience was, since I was over 40, they didn't even bother trying to figure it out. I was given the miscarriage statistics at my age and that was it. Well, let me clarify that - one RE did do a hysteroscopy after one of my miscarriages but my uterus looked clean as a whistle and as normal as can be (then he fell back on the miscarriage statistics over 40) Another RE wanted to do a whole work-up on whether or not my immune system was the culprit, however due to the cost involved and our lost faith in the medical system, we declined.
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My advice? If you fall in the unexplained category (and you're sure that everything's been ruled out), do everything you can to promote your fertility naturally, then keep trying. Of course, there are no guarantees, but I have many stories of couples who stayed the course and eventually succeeded.
 Here is an article about how the diagnosis of "unexplained infertility" probably shouldn't be used at all:

Monday, May 29, 2017


Male Factor Infertility Improved With Fruits And Vegetables

A healthy diet can help sperm. No surprise to me, but so much focus is put on the health of a woman trying to conceive that I think people forget that sperm needs to be healthy too.
 Here's an article about a study which found that infertile men had a low intake of fruits and vegetables because of the beneficial antioxidants. Read more:

Forty-eight infertile men and 10 fertile men who had fathered children in the last year completed questionnaires about their diets. Results showed that 83 percent of the infertile men had a low intake of fruits and veggies, defined as fewer than five servings a day, compared with 40 percent of the fertile men.

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And overall, men who ate the fewest fruits and veggies had the lowest sperm motility.

“We think that sperm quality is affected by dietary antioxidant intake,” said study author Dr. Vivian Lewis, a professor of obstetrics and gynecology at the University of Rochester in Rochester, N.Y.

Antioxidants, like those found in fruits and vegetables, may help prevent damage to sperm that causes them to become sluggish and lose the ability to fertilize an egg, she said.

In particular, the antioxidants glutathione and cryptoxanthin, which are prevalent in brightly colored produce such as leafy greens, tomatoes, peppers and oranges, were associated with strong, healthy sperm, Lewis said.

She recommended that men hoping to father children eat “a variety of fruits and vegetables, at least five servings a day.”

Dr. Rebecca Sokol, a professor of obstetrics and gynecology at the University of Southern California in Los Angeles, who was not affiliated with the study, said it’s prudent for men trying to impregnate their partners to improve their diets. It could potentially help their sperm, and it certainly helps their overall health, she said.


Thursday, May 25, 2017


Having A Baby Over 40, Persistence Pays Off

I've often said that a couple may be impatient, not infertile - even though some couples get pregnant by surprise, it's not that way for everyone. I was surprised at how persistent you may have to be to get pregnant.  Yes, some couples get pregnant on the first try, but certainly not all.  Older couples may have to try longer but that doesn't mean they're infertile, they may just be a little "subfertile".

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Half of couples at one treatment center really weren't infertile, they just didn't have their timing right.

 Getting Pregnant Requires Patience and Timing

 This article talks about how a couple has to have intercourse 104 times before getting pregnant. So
patience and timing may be two very important factors - the problem is, most of us want quick results and the wait can be agonizing. Read more:
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The study, carried out among 3,000 mothers was commissioned by family planning brand First Response.

Yesterday Dr. Mike Smith of First Response said: 'Having sex 104 times before falling pregnant does sound rather a lot, but as they say practice makes perfect.

'However, for those not trying to conceive it's very important to remember that many couples may also fall pregnant first time so if you are not trying for a baby please still use the necessary precautions.

'Trying for a baby is a very exciting time for a couple and many try to have sex at every opportunity in order to get pregnant.'

The study also found two thirds of women conceived much quicker than they expect to.

But while plenty of women were happy to wait for nature to take its course, others were intent on
forcing the issue when the need arose.

In fact 10 per cent said they then jumped on their other half as soon as he walked through the door when they felt the time was right.


Monday, May 22, 2017


Hand Sanitizers May Hurt Fertility

I talk in my book about how you should avoid some hand sanitizers if you are trying to conceive - especially those with triclosan. Triclosan can be quite dangerous and it is in a number of consumer products, not just hand sanitizers. Please read the labels and do your research! I was surprised to find out that triclosan isn't just a hormone disruptor, it's also a carcinogen. Yikes!

From the article:

The EPA considers triclosan a high risk for human health and the environment. When introduced in 1972, triclosan was confined to health care settings in a surgical scrub.1-4

Triclosan may not be a familiar term to most consumers, though it is now ubiquitous in most American households, masquerading under the unassuming term, "antimicrobial." In the United States, "antimicrobial" has become synonymous with cleanliness and good health.
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The chemical industry has fostered a fear of germs among American consumers and developed a lucrative market selling products designed to protect us from germs. The EPA estimates sales of antimicrobial products now constitute a billion dollar per year industry...

...The chemical structure of triclosan resembles certain estrogens. One study on a species of Japanese fish did not indicate any estrogenic effects, but found androgenic effects resulting in changes in fin length and sex ratios.2

Triclosan is lipophilic, attaching to fatty tissue. It can accumulate in the liver, lungs, and kidneys, reaching toxic levels. As a chlorophenol, it is categorized as a persistent organic pollutant, along with dioxins and PCBs. These chemicals persist in the environment and bioaccumulate up the food chain. Being at the top of the food chain, humans harbor the most concentrated amounts of these toxic chemicals.2-4

Triclosan's use is already so widespread it has made its way into the human body. Studies show triclosan residues in the umbilical cord blood of infants and in the breast milk of nursing mothers.9 Triclosan has not been thoroughly tested nor evaluated for potential risks to human health and the
environment though it is in a category of very toxic and carcinogenic chemicals. It is chemically similar to Agent Orange.

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Friday, May 19, 2017


I try to have a variety of articles on my blogs...I know not everyone can relate to all my posts, but I thought I'd go in a different direction today and talk about fertility spells, dieties and rituals.  Here is an interesting article that explains how these may help.  Read more:

...fertility is linked with the feminine aspects of the universe, which are related to night time and the moon. This is why fertility spells are usually cast on a full moon, as this is when divine feminine energies are most present, and your words are more personified or heard. As part of the spell, ask that within the next full moon cycle, you will become pregnant, and meditate on the days in which you are most fertile in your menstrual cycle. When you are aware of these aspects of your menstrual cycle and how it is linked with the moon phases, this will make the spell more accurate.
Daily Blessings
Before or after conception, drink charged water as a daily blessing to the universe and yourself that
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you experience healthy pregnancy. Daily blessings are a way of thanking deity or the universe for your success, but also encouraging this process to reach your end goal - child birth. In the morning, drink this water or anoint over your lower stomach.
To create charged water, leave purified water in a glass container outside during night. Allow the moons energies to absorb into the water. You may also leave gemstones in the water, as vibrational energies from these gemstones will also be absorbed into the water. For example, you may want to include Moonstone, Amethyst or Agate, as these gemstones are related to fertility and health. When we consume this water, we are taking in those energies. This can be useful to you, as this could aid with maintaining health and fertility thought the pregnancy. Alternatively, you could find jewellery with these gemstones or symbols relating to pregnancy to wear often.
Help from Deity
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You may also connect with deity, and ask that they ensure a healthy and successful pregnancy. Goddesses you may want to do some research on are: Astarte, Freya and Ishtar. These are only a few of the many Goddesses you could call upon in regards to fertility. Once you have found a Goddess which you feel a connection to and are most familiar with, you may include them in spell work or ritual, or attempt to speak with them and ask for their blessings. Following a guided meditation may help with trying to communicate with deity.
To further strengthen this connection, you may also want to display images of deity you chose to work with. This could be a picture on an altar, placed on a desk, or kept in your pocket to take with you often.

Tuesday, May 16, 2017


Here is an interesting article about some of the new advances in science.  It looks like menopausal women may have hope to have a baby from their own eggs.  Read more:

“It offers hope that menopausal women will be able to get pregnant using their own genetic material“
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To turn back the fertility clock for women who have experienced early menopause, Sfakianoudis and his colleagues have turned to a blood treatment that is used to help wounds heal faster.
Platelet-rich plasma (PRP) is made by centrifuging a sample of a person’s blood to isolate growth factors – molecules that trigger the growth of tissue and blood vessels. It is widely used to speed the repair of damaged bones and muscles, although its effectiveness is unclear. The treatment may work by stimulating tissue regeneration.



Sfakianoudis’s team has found that PRP also seems to rejuvenate older ovaries, and presented some of their results at the European Society of Human Reproduction and Embryology annual meeting in Helsinki, Finland, this month. When they injected PRP into the ovaries of menopausal women, they say it restarted their menstrual cycles, and enabled them to collect and fertilise the eggs that were released.
“I had a patient whose menopause had established five years ago, at the age of 40,” says Sfakianoudis. Six months after the team injected PRP into her ovaries, she experienced her first period since menopause.

Sunday, May 14, 2017


Well, this "holiday" coming up may be the worst one of them all if you're trying to conceive. What could be harder than watching the rest of the country celebrate the joys of motherhood while you sit there stuck in infertility  quicksand.

I know much has been written by myself and others about surviving holidays while you're trying to conceive. Mother's day is a big how do you get through it? Many years ago, I started the tradition of hosting a mother's day brunch at my house. I actually started this before I was even married and I continued it while I was struggling with infertility and miscarriage. Even though it seems counter-intuitive, it actually was a great thing to do. I love a good project and planning and
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organizing a big get-together was just enough to keep my mind off my woes.

Even if you decide not to host a big get-together at your house, try to find something that's going to keep you busy over the mother's day weekend. Since the weather's finally getting nicer, plan some outdoor activities. Work in your yard or garden, or plan a home improvement project. I can't tell you how many projects I completed during the six years I was trying to conceive. In retrospect, I'm glad I used my time productively...not only was it good for my mental health, but it was nice to get so many projects out of the way that I don't have time for now. It will be your turn one day...don't put your life on hold while you're waiting.

When I was trying to get pregant, I watched many mothers' days come and go. I remember thinking, wouldn't it be neat if I got pregnant right before mother's day and I could announce it to everyone on mother's day? never happens like that unless you're reading a romance novel or watching made-for-TV movie.
My advice? Don't ever put dates or deadlines on when you're going to get pregnant. You really will be setting yourself up for failure. Every pregnancy I had always came as a total shock (even though I was actively trying). I realize that when you're trying to conceive, every month is an opportunity for success, but it's when you start trying to force things into place that you get into trouble. If you're not pregnant this month, it doesn't mean that you're doomed. It simply means that you're not pregnant this month. When I really want something, I make my intentions known to the universe through visualization and meditation, and then I try to divert my attention elsewhere. That way I don't try too hard which essentially acts as a roadblock to my success.

Thursday, May 11, 2017


Getting Pregnant:  Prayer For Fertility

Although I wasn't a particularly religious person, I grew up Catholic and fell back on my faith during the traumatic times while going through fertility treatments and miscarriage.  I said many prayers on the road to parenthood...and eventually they were answered.  Would I have liked to get pregnant sooner than 6 years of trying?  Yes!  But I also realize that babies come when they're ready, not when you demand they come.
I found an interesting article about how prayer can help increase the rate of pregnancy success.
 Although the study deals with women going through IVF, I found the results encouraging:

"According to a double blind study in the Journal of Reproductive Medicine, intercessory prayer can double the success rate of in vitro fertilization (IVF) treatments.

A team of U.S. researchers asked groups of people around the world to pray for pregnancy in one half of almost 200 women undergoing the fertility treatment in South Korea. The prayers continued throughout the three-week course of IVF treatment. The prayer groups were given only photographs of the women. The participants in the study were asked to either pray directly for an increased
pregnancy rate in these women, or to pray that these prayers would be effective. 

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This was a double-blind study, meaning that neither the women nor their doctors were aware of the study.

The 199 women were treated at the Cha General Hospital in Seoul. Members of various Christian denominations in the U.S., Canada and Australia were given photographs of half the women, in batches of five at a time. An independent statistician had randomized the women into the two groups.

Researchers controlled for age, length of infertility, type of infertility and number of prior attempts to become pregnant following IVF.
Fifty percent of the women who were prayed for became pregnant.
Only 26 percent of women in the control group became pregnant.
The fertilization rates in each group of women were similar. But the embryo implantation rate was significantly higher in the prayer group. The number of multiple pregnancies was also higher in this group."

Tuesday, May 09, 2017


How I Became Pregnant With Holistic Health Treatments

By Carolan B Deacon

Barefoot to Baby- How Reflexology Helped a Childless Couple Become Parents
When I first heard the tick-tock of my biological clock turn into a clang, I had been married to Dennis exactly one day. One day was all it took for me to decide it was time to get pregnant. My sweet, handsome husband is the man that I dreamed of marrying for years before actually meeting him. I couldn't wait to have our child to cherish together! We began trying to become pregnant. Wait, let me be honest here... I began trying to become pregnant. I armed myself with ovulation kits, charts and a digital thermometer. At the beginning of each menstrual cycle, I would calculate the dates of my fertile window. Then I would devise creative ways to seduce Dennis on those days. Gradually, Dennis realized my lusty and insatiable need for him occurred only on days 12 through 16 of each month. If he wasn't in the mood, I became a little militant. I needed seed for my egg, NOW! He began to wear a look a fear when he saw me appear in his office wearing nothing but a determined look. Month after
month, I was not pregnant. To make matters worse, it felt like everywhere I went I saw happy women with their pregnant bellies. How my heart ached!
We decided to go for fertility testing. Both of us tested normal except for test results that showed
some abnormal sperm motility. His doctor's comment was "The motility could be a problem but I doubt it- this is unexplained infertility". Infertility! Us? We made an appointment with a reproductive endocrinologist and he suggested we try intrauterine insemination with hormone drugs. When the eggs were ready to be fertilized, we would race to the clinic for the insemination. We both found this to be extremely stressful. I had read somewhere that caffeine stimulates sperm so I would ask Dennis to drink extra coffee in hopes that his little tadpoles would swim harder and faster to my waiting egg. He felt pressured and I was very emotional from the hormones. Is this the way trying to conceive our baby should feel? Our last cycle of IUI, the doctor came in with the prepared sample, shook his head and said "if this doesn't work, I think you guys would be better off with invitro fertilization." Looking back, I never had the strong feeling these treatments were going to be successful, even while undergoing them. And they weren't. I still felt somehow we would be parents one day. My intuition was whispering guidance to me and I ignored it, determined to do the treatments anyway. We put ourselves through this process four times in six months before quitting the intrauterine insemination. My body and mind needed a chance to recuperate if we were going to try invitro fertilization.
The words "invitro fertilization" triggered a sense of foreboding in me. I knew there must be alternatives. I was doing acupuncture with an amazing healer and friend and I was still using kits so I knew our best time for conception each month. What else was out there to help us? I actively researched this online and through health practitioners and couldn't find anything on conception treatments that we had not done. But one thought kept coming to my mind: I wondered if the anti-inflammatory medications Dennis had been taking for several years for his spinal stenosis played a part in the abnormal sperm motility. Referred by our talented and wise acupuncturist, he began working with a functional medicine doctor who was able to help him reduce his need for medications significantly. This change was important because the drugs taken long term were dangerous for his health.
Still no baby... every month when I got my period, I cried. In the meantime, I asked that God remove this desire for children from me if I was not meant for motherhood as it was too painful. Even while I asked this, I knew in my heart that God put the desire for children in my heart for a reason. I prayed for patience and guidance.
Several months went by with no baby and we agreed to give invitro fertilization a try. Nothing and no one prepared me for the horrible effect of the drug Lupron on my body and mind. Lupron is a drug used for prostate cancer and is also used in invitro fertilization to shut down the female reproductive system before overstimulating it with fertility drugs. One night I stepped out of the shower about two thirds of the way through the cycle and felt like I could not breathe. I stood dripping water and literally felt like I was dying. I knew there was no way a healthy baby was going to come to me feeling like this. I talked to Dennis and stopped the medications the next day. I felt like I had just dodged a very big bullet. Again, I continued to pray for patience and guidance.
Throughout my life, I have had moments of intuitive inspiration. I know that they are a communion with God and I think of them as God's guiding grace for my life. I began to spend more time with morning prayer and returned to habits of self-nurturing and meditation. That was when I felt led to explore holistic healing on a deeper level and decided to become a certified reflexologist. Reflexology is a healing art in which the feet are maps of reflex points that correspond to the entire body system. Healing occurs when these points are worked to correct balance in the body. I went to the best reflexology class I could find taught by a dynamic healer. My teacher had a kind graceful demeanor and I was impressed with her grounded healing methods. She had a crowded class and taught effectively and efficiently. She shared with us the importance of a reflexologist's intention when working with clients. This was a new concept to me and a profound one. I became certified as a reflexologist and began using this amazing healing art to help people.
Six months later Dennis and I decided to pursue domestic adoption. We started the process of completing our home study and then joined an online adoption site. Shortly after posting our profile we were contacted by a young birthmother who had just given birth to an adorable baby girl. The birthmother had seen our adoption profile online and was interested in us as adoptive parents! I still remember the joy and excitement we felt of finally having found our child. Dennis was as excited as I was! We fell in love with the mother and her baby and made plans to meet her. Then, just as we were getting ready to fly out to see her, we lost contact. No phone calls, no email... nothing. For three weeks we tried to reach her. We were crushed. About a month went by when I checked my email and saw a message from her in my box! Oh Joy! I read the email and stood up, stunned. The message was from the young birthmother's mother. The mother was writing to let us know that her daughter had suffered a massive stroke due to a congenital heart defect and had been in a coma for weeks and was not expected to live. Her mother let us know that if her daughter died she would be adopting the baby, her grandaughter. She stopped all contact with us. After a month of trying to reach her, we knew that our sweet birthmother had passed on.
We gingerly picked up the pieces of our grieving hearts. Other birthmothers contacted us as adoptive parents but nothing clicked and we were still grieving. Adoption is a beautiful way to start a family and I always encourage people to pursue it wholeheartedly. I have no doubt that it does work well. It just wasn't the right time or situation for us.
Life moved along.Then I began having these intuitive thoughts to contact my reflexology teacher. At first, I ignored the impulse as Dennis and I had enough of the effort of trying to conceive our child. But the thought turned into a gentle urging so I called her and asked her if she treated people for infertility. Her response was "Yes, I have had great results with conception, the key is treating the man and woman together". Really? Energetically, this made perfect sense to me and over the past year, I had seen amazing results with my own reflexology clients so I knew firsthand how powerful these treatments were. We had to wait until the first past of January for our appointment. The first treatment was in a warm low-lit room with candles burning. It was such a change from the fluorescent lighting and stark white reality of the hospital treatment rooms. We each took our turn melting into a warm bed while she worked on our feet. I felt comforted and hopeful as a deep relaxation overcame me. As she worked on Dennis, she allowed me to observe and take notes. She actually incorporated reflexology with Chinese medical massage and moxibustion, paying special attention to Dennis' kidney acupressure points 1, 2 and 3 and she worked all his reproductive reflexology points. One me, she worked the reproductive reflexology points and made sure my fallopian tubes were clear by dragging her knuckles from the ovary points over and across my ankle to the uterine point. During the week I would repeat these treatments on Dennis. We had two sessions in January 2010 and one session in February before celebrating our 5th year anniversary.
After five hard years of trying to become parents, my husband and I were more than ready to go someplace fabulous to celebrate our anniversary. Why not Italy? We had our third reflexology treatment on Sunday February 21 and then hopped on a plane to Rome on Friday February 26, 2010, our 5 year anniversary. I loved Italy! Eating in Rome was an incredible experience until I got greedy with cream pastries and got food poisoning. A week later (and ten pounds lighter), I returned home. Two weeks passed and my period never arrived. Maybe it was the food poisoning that threw my cycle off. Or maybe....Nope, I was not even going to think about it.
A few days later, I decided to take a pregnancy test. I watched in disbelief as two pink lines appeared in the window! Pregnant at last! Excitement and gratitude swelled up inside me. I sprinted down the hall to tell my husband Dennis with the pregnancy test hidden behind my back. He was on the phone so I slapped the stick with two bright pink lines on his desk in front of him and waited for his reaction. A split second of confusion, then huge joy spread across his face. He jumped up and hugged me with tears of happiness while I stood there smiling and wondering who we were going to call first!
It's now one year from that day. I am writing this with my daughter on my lap and my heart is full of loving gratitude. We journeyed through 5 years of unsuccessful fertility treatments and a heartwrenching adoption attempt while trying to bring our child to us. We had become healthier during this process, but I felt that intuitive urging to use the art of reflexology to help us conceive.There is amazing power in holistic health to change, overcome and thrive.
Then, three reflexology sessions put us into a state of balance that allowed us to conceive. This was divine wisdom. This was following my intuition. I feel truly blessed to be able to share our story in faith that it will help others who are struggling. I know there is amazing power in holistic healing. I know intuition is God's guiding grace for my life, for everyone's life.
When I learned to trust that intuition,
it changed everything. Everything!
by Carolan Deacon
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