Wednesday, February 10, 2016


Workouts May Hurt Fertility

I've posted before about the association between vigorous exercise and infertility or delayed fertility.  With Halloween over and more holiday eating just ahead, women may feel the need to workout more to counterbalance all of the additional calories.
Here is an article about a study which confirms that exercises such as running or aerobics may reduce the chances of a woman getting pregnant.  The article also mentions that it may be harder for a fertilized egg to implant if a woman is too active.  Read more:


The researchers found that moderate exercise, such as walking, cycling or gardening, was associated with getting pregnant more quickly for all women, regardless of weight.
Women who spent more than five hours per week doing moderate exercise were 18 percent more likely to become pregnant during any given menstrual cycle than women who performed moderate exercise for less than an hour each week.
However, normal-weight and very lean women who reported high levels of vigorous exercise, such as running or aerobics, took longer to get pregnant. Those who exercised vigorously for more than five hours each week had a 32 percent lower chance of becoming pregnant during a given cycle than women who did not exercise vigorously at all...

... Having too little body fat may be a factor for some women, and it's known that competitive female athletes and very underweight women sometimes experience menstrual irregularities.
Exercise may also affect the fertilized egg's ability to implant in the uterus. One previous study of women undergoing in vitro fertilization found a higher risk of implantation failure among women who did a lot of running or cycling.


Monday, February 08, 2016


I did practice meditation and visualization when I was trying to conceive and I created a CD ( to help women visualize a successful conception and pregnancy.  Here is
another helpful article on what to do when you are a beginner on meditation:

Learn How to Meditate - Meditation in Minutes, a Beginners Course

Guest Post By Pieter Heydenrych

.. focus one's mind for a time for relaxation or spiritual purposes/think carefully about...
As I suspect you already know, this is easier said than done. However once mastered this will make for a most amazing pastime, and remains without a doubt a worthy pursuit. It is with this in mind that I have decided to create this meditation course, which will step by step show you how to meditate and with the help of some exercises and aids.
To this end you will also find that this course has been developed to enable beginners (and advanced as refresher/and perhaps a slightly different perspective) without much effort to start almost instantly enjoying the benefits of meditation, which could be numerous including :

  • Better physical health
  • Better mental health and abilities
  • Less stress
  • Better sleeping habits
  • And of course could also include personal spiritual growth, even if not philosophically associated.
  • And many more not mentioned here....
Step 1
So as a start I would suggest that we begin with a fairly important aspect of meditation. An aspect which will have an impact on your meditations in the future :
Whilst most teachers will insist that you take up a lotus position, I have found that there is very little limitation to potential positions which are suitable for meditation at this level. Essentially three things to consider:
  • It must be a position in which you would be able to sit (or stand) for at least 5-10 minutes, and with reasonable comfort, ensuring that you reduce discomfort, and following fidgeting to a minimum.
  • It must be in a place where you will not be disturbed for the duration of your meditation. {there is little as unpleasant as being rudely awakened in the middle of a meditation session.}
  • It must be a comfortable position, but a position which is not conducive to sleep. eg. trying to meditate lying down on your bed, is the easiest way to fall asleep rather than meditate.

For the sake of ease, I have found that simply sitting fairly upright in a normal chair is fairly suitable. It is OK for the chair to have armrests and soft cushioning as this will likely increase the comfort level by just enough to keep you going. If the chair has no armrests of course you could simply rest your hands in your lap.
Of course you are welcome to attempt a lotus position, as this will likely eventually prove to be a suitable position, however I have found that not only is it a difficult position to take for normal folk, but unless you are a seasoned meditator, you are likely to find that you get distracting aches in places which will force you to fidget
To avoid this I have found that a partial lotus (only crossing one foot over your leg, and the other underneath, or one foot across and the other not totally underneath) with back support makes for a comfortable position for most meditations.
Again I must state that it remains unimportant whether or not your are able to sit in this position or not, and at this stage I would suggest that you can give up perfection for comfort, as this will have very little (if any) impact on the success of your meditations...
Oh.. and do not be afraid to stop reading to try find a comfortable position right now...
Step 2
The next step is at least as important as the first step. Fortunately this is not a difficult step, and with some help I believe you will be able to master this very quickly :
Whilst there are many techniques with which to do this, I have found that for me there is only one way. TAKE A BREATH
If this is applied correctly you will find that within seconds you will get your body relaxed, and in a fit state to start your meditation. In fact I would go as far as saying that I use this technique in preparation of every meditation that I attempt, and with perfect success every time.
Another useful benefit of applying this correctly is the fact that it immediately starts to focus and relax your mind, which makes it that much easier to get into your meditation without distraction. And no matter how long or how short your meditation, starting with this will get your there quickly and with little fuss.
"How do I apply this correctly?...
Taking preparatory breaths are easy enough and requires only that you are able to count (and do not hesitate to practice this as your read it) :
  • Taking a deep breath in. Do this over a count of 4. (about 1 second apart, or as is comfortable for you, trying to get as close to 1 second per count as possible). Also while taking the in breath imagine you are breathing in calm, relaxing, healing energy with the air.
  • Then hold your breath for 16 counts.
  • Then emtpy your lungs slowly over 8 counts. And while you breath out imagine you are blowing out stress and illness and discomfort with the air that you are blowing out.
  • Repeat this at least three times, after which your should be pretty ready to start with your meditation. If however you sense that your mind is still racing and you are not relaxed yet, you could do this as many times as you feel the need to. Please take note that whilst this form of breathing exercise does not hold any real danger to you, if you feel dizzy it is better to stop and try again later.
Step 3
Now is where you actually start to meditate. Your body and mind is prepared to start meditation, (and yet your mind keeps on wandering...).
Essentially it is now time for you to start "thinking carefully about something...".
This unfortunately is where most students falter, and the primary reason for this is simply that the question always comes up. "WHAT DO I HAVE TO MEDITATE ABOUT?...". "WHAT DO I DO NOW".
Of course there are many answers to this question however I have found that few of them will be of any real use to you, so I will offer you a little from my experience :
What most teachers will omit to teach, or tell you, is that objectively, to get the best benefit from your meditation, you have to figure out first what you consider worth the effort, and then meditate on that.
That of course does not mean that you can not go for the clearing of your mind meditation where you think about nothing. This you will find is rather on the difficult side however, and most seasoned meditators battle with this.
So to start meditating you would rather want to find a subject or topic to meditate on {think about}. These could include things like :
  • Relaxing & destressing
  • Just for fun
  • Your health
  • In preparation for a difficult task (eg. interview for a new job, first date...)
  • Some problem in your life
  • Some problem at work
  • Some spiritual pursuit
  • Things like astral projection
  • And many many more....

This probably still has you a little baffled. "HOW DO I MEDITATE TO RELAX AND DESTRESS". Well I can assure you that sitting there and thinking "I have to relax and destress" over and over again will not do the trick. Rather than focussing on trying to relax, think about the place that you feel safe and calm in and go there in your mind. Going there will also keep you going for a little while, making it possible for you to stay in this meditative state for a time. Now if you want to stay in this place a little longer start to focus on details of this place in your mind (eg. if your place is a meadow, take a closer look at the flowers that are growing there, or look at the bird flying by, and pay attention. Look at the sky, and try to identify images in the cloud formations. etc...).
Following this will likely make it possible for you to stay in meditation longer, and by the time you awaken from your meditation, you will probably feel very relaxed.
Another example of a fun meditation to do would be the elevator meditation. Essentially all you have to do is after completing your meditation preparation, in your mind's eye, get in an elevator. Select any button, and feel the elevator start moving, watch the counter move, and when the elevator doors open, look outside to see if there is anything. If there is nothing go back into the elevator, and select another floor. Do this until you reach a place where you feel comfortable getting off the elevator, and where there is something to see. Once you are there look at the details. Sense them, smell them , hear them, see them, taste them... You are likely to find this a very pleasant experience. When you are done and you want to stop, just get back in the elevator, and go back to where you started. After that awaken slowly and comfortably. Chances are you will feel the experiences of the meditation lingering. An amazing feeling....
Go ahead, do one....
Step 4
As suggested before, one of the most difficult aspects of meditation, and especially for beginners, is the ability to focus your mind for a period long enough to actually get benefit from a meditation.
And whilst there are many reasons for this, the most prevalent would be a wandering mind, added to the lack of ability to concentrate long enough on one thought to derive significant benefit from this.
Fortunately practice will make perfect, and as you start and progress on your meditation journey you will find that your skills increase and your results with this. I suspect however that you are looking for an easier way to do this than to simply try and concentrate. And happily I am pleased to say that there is a way :
Essentially giving your mind something to focus on which is external from yourself, and which does not require any major effort on your part to control. And whilst this is really just a trick, it works well and with almost instant benefit to you as meditator. And before you know it, you will be able to focus your mind for long periods of time, without any help.
Of course there is nothing that stops you from trying to do this on your own, and without assistance, however you are likely to find this difficult at best, as being human, and living a normal life will likely make it very easy for your mind to wander.
So to divert my mind I have found the use of guided meditations (diversion of your mind) to be incredibly valuable, and for many reasons. The most important of which includes the simple fact that instead of trying to concentrate your mind (and curb those ever wandering thoughts) you have to simply follow the meditation, which is guaranteed to get to a better and quicker result, simply because you will not likely be tempted by other thoughts which do not follow the meditation.
Sadly this is another place for students of meditation to get stuck. "Which meditation do I use?...", "I do not want some philosophy shoved down my throat with the meditation..." and I suspect that you could come up with a few more reasons why this is not normally acceptable. What one has to remember is that despite the difficulties you may have with this form of meditation, the technique is fantastic, even if the meditation is unsuitable for you.
So to keep things simple you can write and record your own meditations, which will suit exactly your needs. It is easier than you think...
Simply follow the formats of a few of the meditations, already quoted in this article as well as the basic suggestions and there is little that you can really do wrong...
So go ahead and try it..... (Thats how I started)
Pieter Heydenrych is a Rieki master who has created a resource at dedicated to teaching non religiously affiliated meditation to all who wishes to learn it.
Article Source:,-a-Beginners-Course&id=128639

Friday, February 05, 2016


Pregnancy Over 40, Infertility and Dealing With The Fertile World

I received an e-mail from a woman I met when I ran the women's support group for my local infertility organization. She conceived naturally while on a break from her fertility treatments and had her baby on her 44th birthday.
 She was talking about how other women who conceive easily have no clue what infertility is like. It's still a bit of a sore spot with most of us even after we succeed in having a baby.  Other people just seem to take for granted what a miracle it is to have a child.


It reminds me of a time when I was talking with some other mothers at our local library's "storytime". One woman was trying to conceive her second child and was getting a bit impatient because two months had gone by and she still wasn't pregnant.   It almost made me want to laugh because after everything I had gone through, two months was a blink of an eye.  Without thinking, I blurted out "try six years". I immediately knew I shouldn't have said that. She and a few others turned and looked at me dumbfounded like I was some kind of freak. Since then I'm much more selective who I share my information with.

The moral of the story is that going through infertility teaches you how to appreciate even the smallest of blessings. That's a blessing in itself. When you appreciate what you have or what your given, life is so much more rewarding.

Wednesday, February 03, 2016


Fertility Support Groups and Talk Therapy May Help You Get Pregnant

Before you jump into the high tech, expensive and sometimes dangerous world of fertility treatments, don't forget one of the oldest forms of healing: Talking. That's why I usually recommend a support group for women or couples who are trying to conceive and experiencing infertility.


I've written countless times about how stress affects fertility. Then you throw in a holiday along with the end of the year or a birthday (with no baby yet) and you have a recipe for disaster. Talking it out may be the most effective treatment of all. Here's an article that seconds that notion:

Couples who are undergoing infertility treatment could benefit from talk therapy, researchers have said.

Many women suffer from stress-related infertility, particularly during the winter months.

Dr Deidra Rausch, a counsellor in the US who specialises in infertility, explained: "For them, the end of the year becomes another marker in their inability to have children.

"Plus, the seasonal emphasis on family can become a painful reminder of their ongoing struggles."

Dr Rausch cited new research presented at a fertility conference in Prague that found evidence of the benefits of talk therapy.

The study, conducted by scientists at Emory University, found that of eight women who participated in a cognitive behaviour therapy course, six regained full fertility and two became pregnant within two months.

The expert concluded that a mental health professional could help couples undergoing infertility treatment by alleviating feelings of depression and anxiety and boosting self-esteem.


Monday, February 01, 2016


Pregnancy Over 40, Men with Prostatitis Do Conceive Babies:  Many Causes Of Prostatitis Are Treatable

Prostatitis by definition is "inflammation of the prostate" which can affect a man's fertility.
This site has quite a bit of information about causes and treatments in men with this condition. Read more:

There are many possible causes to prostatitis, including neurological-muscular tension disorders, bacterial infection or infection by other pathogens such as yeasts or viruses, and the possibility that prostatitis is a disordered immune response. The very best doctors have a difficult time proving to themselves which it is, and even when they are sure, they do not all have really high rates of cure...Does this mean you or your husband should give up? I don't think so.
The reasons not to give up include:


Your husband has something that millions of men have and he can take some solace in communicating with other men with prostatitis. We're working together through The Prostatitis Foundation to get some of the scientific questions answered.
By talking to each other, men with prostatitis have flushed out of the woodworks some things which are helpful, but which were not widely known, or widely appreciated, before we got together on the Internet. Among these are Quercetin, which helps men who do not seem to have active bacterial infections, and "drainage," which is very firm massage of of the prostate gland to squeeze out the contents. ALL interventions in prostatitis have some risks, and NONE work for everybody. But these and other tools that your doctor may not know about or recommend can help. Note that many spouses do drainage themselves to help their husbands reduce prostatitis symptoms.
Many men with prostatitis have managed to conceive children.


Friday, January 29, 2016


Pregnancy Over 40, Some Desserts May Help

Yum...trying to conceive might involve having some great desserts.
 This article talks about how some delicious recipes may be good for your fertility. 

From the article:

Eνеr wonder wһу women аrе tһе ones wһο crave chocolate? Studies suggest tһаt women аrе more affected bу tһе “magic” οf phenylethylamine (PEA, аn endogenous neuroamine/antidepressant). Wһο cares tһаt wе саnnοt pronounce іt, аѕ long аѕ іt mаkеѕ υѕ very, very һарру.

Oh, yes! A tantalizing ƖіttƖе pleasure, chocolate іѕ loaded wіtһ tһе stimulant PEA аחԁ therefore chocolate ԁοеѕ іt аƖƖ, frοm something аѕ wonderful аѕ increasing energy tο tһаt pizazz οf stimulating sexual arousal аחԁ pleasure. Forget tһе appetizers аחԁ entrees аחԁ јυѕt mаkе уουr chocolate goodies tһе entire meal! Aחԁ аѕ a touch οf fertility enticement, ѕοmе believe tһаt green M&M's аrе lusty ƖіttƖе aphrodisiacs. Hey, green ԁοеѕ mean ɡο!

See also:  Foods For Fertility (

Or һοw аbουt chocolate’s lusty ƖіttƖе friend, vanilla. Vanilla’s scent חοt οחƖу calms аחԁ relaxes, bυt аƖѕο acts аѕ a powerful аחԁ mysterious sex enhancer. Experiment wіtһ уουr vanilla desserts іח tһе forms οf ice cream, cakes, smoothies… οr drop a vanilla bean οr two into уουr champagne fertility toast. Cheers tο vanilla!

Lеt’s talk éclairs аѕ a particularly powerful аnԁ well-endowed fertility dessert. Tһе shape, tһе
luscious creamy custard… wе′re blushing аt tһе sheer mention. Bυt һοחеѕtƖу, аѕ far back аѕ tһе Middle Ages, Liebesknochen (translation – bone οf Ɩονе), οr wһаt wе call éclairs, wеrе baked, eaten, and enjoyed аѕ a fertility custom. Now tһаt уου know tһе significance, Ɩеt éclairs work fοr уου.

Wе саn’t talk romantic desserts without raising awareness οf tһе “raising” merits οf pumpkin pie. Tһе scent οf аnу home cooked pie mау tantalize уουr partner, bυt pumpkin pie ԁοеѕ іt аƖƖ. Abundant іn phosphorus, pumpkin pie іѕ known tο increase penile blood flow bу up tο 40%


Tuesday, January 26, 2016


 I found this article to be very insightful about women's fertility and pregnancy over the age of 40.  Many women get pregnant by surprise forgetting that, despite the doom and gloom reported in the media about women having babies at older ages, women can be quite fertile even through their mid forties.  If they do get pregnant, they are bombarded with negative outcomes, when in fact, the vast majority  babies born to women over 40 are perfectly normal. (click here to read about the real rate of pregnancy complications and birth defects over age 40.,.from
Read more from celebrate life magazine:

 Media sensationalism and the protectionism bred by fear of medical malpractice lawsuits perpetuate the myth that having a child naturally later in life is virtually impossible —and therefore should be avoided.
The media’s infertility stories and glamorization of alternate means of achieving parenthood, along with medical experts’ reasonable cautions about pregnancy after age 35, have been distorted to mean that natural pregnancy after age 40 is rare and a significant health risk for mother and child. Yet the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists states that “many older women show no greater signs of problems than do younger women. Age need not be a barrier to a safe, healthy pregnancy.”5
The well-publicized increased chance of chromosomal defects resulting in conditions such as Down syndrome and trisomy 18 can horrify women, even though such risks are actually still very small. According to the ACOG, at 43, my age-related risk for a Down syndrome baby was two percent and three percent for a baby with any chromosomal defect.6 According to my OB-GYN’s office, when my health and my baby’s ultrasound were factored in, the calculated risks were 1.5 percent for Down syndrome and .02 percent for trisomy 18. Thus, older women who are healthy enough to conceive naturally without “trying” are often healthier than age-related risk calculations might reflect.

Due to my age, I chose an OB-GYN practice that specialized in “high risk” pregnancies. Much screening and testing of my baby was recommended. Each time I refused a procedure, the physician meticulously recorded my refusal. At each subsequent appointment, I was asked to confirm that, if my baby were born with a birth defect, I had knowingly declined testing and the option of ending the pregnancy. The experience was emotionally disturbing and faith-testing, as I was tempted to second-guess my choices.


Sunday, January 24, 2016


 I frequently tell stories of women in their late 40's who conceive and have babies naturally, however it's something special when women over 50 have a baby.  I have devoted a page on my website ( to women who have had natural pregnancies over age 50.  What makes this case amazing (as reported by the Daily Mail (UK), a woman had triplets! She also claims a relative had a baby at 51. Read more:

Yesterday Mrs Mellone, who also has a grandson of six months, said: 'I have never used fertility treatment. In our family this is not unusual. Last year my cousin of 51 had a baby girl.
'I only found out I was expecting triplets when I was five months pregnant.' Her children from her first marriage are 23, 26 and 29.
Her second husband, 38-year-old Gerardo Montefusco and father of the triplets, said: 'We had wanted a child but to get three is amazing.'
 The mother says she did not use any fertility treatment and there is no record of it so we must believe her.

Thursday, January 21, 2016


First, let me say I am not by any stretch of the imagination a religious scholar.  But through my reading, I have discovered that the grandmother of Jesus (Mary's mother) was considered quite elderly when she had her daughter Mary.  Most sources say that Anne and her husband Joachim were married for 20 year and had no children, although they certainly wanted them.  The legend suggests that Anne prayed that if she were given a child, she would dedicate it to the Lord's service.  An angel came to Anne and told her she would conceive a child.


They did have a child, again at an "elderly" age (although I can't seem to find how old she actually was) and of course named her Mary.  Even though they longed for this child, when Mary was three, they brought her to the Temple of Jerusalem where they left her to be brought up.  And, Mary became the mother of Jesus.

I realize I have a number of readers of different faiths, but every now and then I like to bring up historical stories of infertility and older motherhood.

Tuesday, January 19, 2016


Get Pregnant Naturally By Changing Lifestyle and Eating Habits

I rest my case! More evidence that making simple lifestyle changes can drastically improve your chances of getting pregnant.
 I'm so happy when I see articles which support natural methods of enhancing fertility especially since so many couples are pushed into fertility treatments before really addressing their diet and other lifestyle factors. Read more about the study:


The team devised a scoring system on dietary and lifestyle factors that previous studies have found to predict ovulatory disorder infertility. Among those factors were:

• The ratio of mono-unsaturated to trans fats in diet

• Protein consumption (derived from animals or vegetables)

• Carbohydrates consumption (including fiber intake and dietary glycemic index)

• Dairy consumption (low- and high-fat dairy)

• Iron consumption

• Multivitamin use

• Body mass index (BMI, weight in kilograms divided by the square of height in meters)

• Physical activity. 

Sunday, January 17, 2016


I consider mustard to be the hero of condiments.  Why is mustard good for your health and fertility?  Mustard comes from the seeds of the mustard plant which is one of the superstar cruciferous vegetables. 
Not only is mustard extremely healthy, but you can eat a lot of it, guilt free.  It is extremely low in calories and it adds a lot of tangy flavor to your food.  So what are the benefits of eating mustard if you are trying to conceive?


  • Mustard it high in phytonutrients which help regulate hormones.
  • Mustard is high in Selenium which  has been found in large healthy follicles and it has been associated with a decreased risk of misarriage.
  •  Mustard is high in Magnesium. Magnesium supplementation has been shown to help previously infertile women succeed in getting pregnant.  The women in one study received supplemental magnesium which normalized their red cell magnesium levels and helped with fertility
  •  Mustard is a source of omega 3 fatty acids which can help with hormone production.

I've actually started adding some mustard to my balsamic vinegar salad dressing (I mix olive oil, balsamic vinegar and mustard with some salt and pepper).  It's really delicious and it adds a creamy texture to the dressing.  You can also eat "mustard greens"  See how to prepare greens here ( 

Friday, January 15, 2016


Pregnancy Over 40, It wasn't the menopause, it was a miracle

I'll warn you right up front, the following article is a little scary, and it made me a little angry to read it. It's about a 45 year old woman who became unexpectedly pregnant (after she was told that a uterine deformity would render her infertile) and since doctors never considered the possibility of pregnancy, they put her through a multitude of tests exposing her to drugs, radiation and the list goes on.
The moral of the story is, 45 year olds do get pregnant - even against the odds. Somehow, the medical community needs to realize that and take precautions just like they would with any other woman! Just because you're in your forties doesn't mean that you are not of "child bearing age". Read more:


From the article:

On Friday, September 10, 1999, I saw another doctor. She suspected a large uterine or ovarian tumour and sent me for an emergency CAT scan. Afterwards, I fell asleep in the waiting area. 'Mrs Cohen.' Someone was shaking my shoulder.

'Mrs Cohen. We did find something in you. We found a baby.'

Since my identity is predicated on my infertility, the statement made no more sense than if he'd said: 'Mrs Cohen, we discovered that you're a man.' Or: 'Mrs Cohen, we found out that you're black.' Obviously, it was a dream.

In shock, I said: 'What do you mean a baby?' They brought me to the ultrasound room to see for myself.


Wednesday, January 13, 2016


Having A Baby Over 40, Could Getting Sick Help?

I've pondered this question for many years.  Could being sick actually help you get pregnant?

The reason I thought about this is because many of my pregnancies occurred when I either wasn't feeling well or was downright sick.  My case in point:  I unexpectedly got pregnant right after I had the stomach flu (this happened at the age of 49 - but I miscarried shortly thereafter).  I believe conception occurred before I got the flu, but I'm thinking the embryo attached while I was sick.  If you've followed my site for a few years, you probably saw that post, but if you didn't here's the link to it:


I recently read about a theory behind the possibility that being sick could help you get pregnant.  It has to do with the immune system.  It could be possible that your immune system may be sabotaging your ability to get pregnant by attacking the pregnancy.  If you're body is busy attacking a real predator, it may help save your pregnancy by not attacking the baby.  I don't know if there's any real science behind this because my sources on this aren't based on research, however it does make sense. 

I have read from credible sources that pregnant women in general do have supressed immune systems and tend to be more susceptible to colds, flu, etc.  Again, the theory here is that the immune system is suppressed so it doesn't attack the pregnancy. 

Anyway if being sick can really help you get pregnant, all you have to do is figure out how on earth you're going to actually have intercourse in that physical state!

Monday, January 11, 2016


Did You know Women Can Be Fertile Twice a Month?

Guest Post By Nadia MacLeod

It's true... and it's all because of the moon.
Most women watch their menstrual cycles and are taught that their prime time to fall pregnant is during mid cycle or biological ovulation.
What they might not know is that the moon can trigger ovulation and bring on fertility at any time during the menstrual cycle including before, after or even during your menstrual period. It all depends on what phase the moon was in when you were born.
The moon has been linked to female fertility for thousands of years. In fact, the ebb and flow of the moon is responsible for the spawning, mating and birthing behaviour of many creatures on our earth. So really, why should we humans be any different?
Intuitively, women have always understood that the moon, their menstrual cycles and fertility are intimately connected. In folklore and ancient traditions the connections between the three are taken as fact.


Consider the following:

  • A healthily fertile woman's menstrual cycle runs its course in about twenty-nine days, one lunar cycle.
  • A standard healthy pregnancy runs for 42 weeks or 10 lunar months.
  • The relationship between the moon's cycles and menstruation is so basic that our words, 'menstruation', 'moon' and 'month' all come from the Greek word for 'measure of time.'

Recent scientific research has revealed how the moon plays its part in female fertility. They have discovered that the production of the hormone Melatonin is controlled by the amount of moonlight reaching the eye.
The Body Clock, which is also responsible for our sleep / wake cycle, responds to the levels of moonlight reaching the eye to produce varying amounts of Melatonin. These Melatonin changes tell the ovaries, through other hormones to develop the egg at the beginning of the menstrual cycle and to release the eggs at mid cycle, so ovulation will occur.
When we all lived in huts or caves without artificial light, women generally bled on the new moon and ovulated and gave birth on the Full Moon. That's just the way it was.
But as humankind has embraced artificial light, the female fertility clock has been disturbed. Women now ovulate and give birth at any time during the lunar month. This means that women now have two fertility cycles to work with.
The truth is that the FULL Moon still exerts a powerful influence on women even if they were not born under that phase.
Many women find that they do in fact ovulate with the full moon. But if they were not born under the full moon phase then they will have a SECONDARY LUNAR fertility pattern that can and does trigger spontaneous ovulation.
Remember the moon's trigger effect is increased by two factors - stress and sexual intercourse. That is, if you are having sex during your lunar fertile time, the chances of ovulation being triggered and conception occurring increase.
This can come as quite a surprise to many people and can be very worrying for women who are not looking to get pregnant.
Being aware of lunar fertility and synchronising you biological cycle to your lunar cycle can be beneficial for many women.
For example:

  • if you are trying to avoid pregnancy it is essential to know when your natal lunar fertile time occurs so you are prepared with appropriate contraception.
  • if you are trying to fall pregnant, synchronising your cycle maximises your chance of falling pregnant at your fertile time, and
  • if your menstrual cycle is irregular then using the moon can be a simple, non invasive technique to help you get regular again.
Nadia MacLeod is the founder and creator of the ultimate menstrual web resource Quite simply, our aim is to provide you with information, products, and an alternative viewpoint about menstruation so that you can feel great about being a woman every day of the month!
Copyright 2006 - Nadia MacLeod.
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Friday, January 08, 2016


If you've been reading my blogs for a while, you know that I have written about gluten intolerance as a cause of infertility and possibly miscarriage.  So if you have been tested and are allergic to gluten, by all means eat a gluten free diet.  But what about the rest of us?  Is gluten really that bad?  It's amazing how many web searches will basically condemn gluten and lead us to believe that it should be banished from the earth.  Gluten can offer some benefits and it is actually VERY high in protein
What is the scientific research on gluten and should we all be avoiding it?

This interesting article in Medical News Today quoted a study from 2013 which said:

  "We found no evidence of specific or dose-dependent effects of gluten in patients with NCGS," the team concluded. In fact, the researchers found the bloating previously identified may be attributable to consumption of carbohydrates called FODMAPs (fermentable, oligo-, di-, monosaccharides, and polyols)" 

The article went on to say:

Lisa Cimperman, a clinical dietitian at the University Hospitals Case Medical Center in Cleveland, OH, and a spokesperson for the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics, added: "Gluten is neither essential nor detrimental to one's health or quality of diet." 

Gluten has been 'popularized as a dietary villain'

As such, some nutritionists believe following a gluten-free diet without having received a diagnosis of celiac disease does not offer health benefits, but the unwarranted praise for the diet makes us believe it does.
Cimperman told us:

"There are no beneficial health effects to a gluten-free diet. Wheat and gluten have recently become popularized as dietary villains by a number of books and media outlets.
Unfortunately, talk show hosts and celebrities are able to amplify such messages while having little to no health or nutrition credentials. There is no research to support gluten-free diets for anyone other than those affected by celiac disease."
In fact, some experts claim following a gluten-free diet in the absence of celiac disease may actually be detrimental to health, as it can lack the nutrients needed to maintain a healthy, balanced diet. According to the Mayo Clinic, a gluten-free diet may lead to lower levels of iron, calcium, fiber, folate, thiamin, riboflavin and niacin. 


Wednesday, January 06, 2016


If you've had fertility testing, and your FSH is over "10", you may wonder if you can still get pregnant. Yes, many women with high FSH do conceive and carry to term. On my website (, I site cases where women get pregnant with an FSH over 100!
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Monday, January 04, 2016


Infertility, people don't always assume you're going through it, especially if you're over 40
Oh, I remember as if it were yesterday...we were with my husband's sister and her family at an event. They had also invited other friends and, of course, it was a family oriented extravaganza.

There I was, minding my own business, waiting for the show to start and one of the other people there says...
"I bet you guys have a bunch of kids right?”
 “Uh no, actually we don't have any”....more silence....”Um how many do you have? “Four”. 
I don't know why that blindsided me, but it did. After that experience we went to most events by ourselves and I made a mental note to come up with a “canned” response to the “do you have children” question.
Be prepared for the "when are you going to have a baby" or "do you have children" question
Preparation is really the key to getting through tough situations. I found the worst part of any encounter of this nature was being unprepared. I know the last thing people want is to make you feel bad, and even now, after everything I've gone through, I frequently ask people if they have kids...I don't automatically assume that they're struggling with infertility.  I have even asked if they're planning on having a baby.
The fertile world doesn't know how you feel and you are hypersensitive right now
You have to remember you are hypersensitive right now and people in the fertile world just don’t know how it feels just as you may not understand certain aspects of their life.

You are probably feeling angry and frustrated and it’s hard not to transfer that on to others. If you say something rude or nasty to someone who makes a comment that hurts you, you will probably feel worse about yourself later which will add to your stress.  I know the feeling of being on the edge of saying something I would regret later.
Responses to the having a baby or child question
First let me tell you my response to the “having children” question:
 “We got married later in life and by the time we really considered it, we felt we were on a different path.”
Yes, I lied and a little white lie now and then is OK. The reason I gave this response is it seemed any other response would give people more information than I wanted to share. I really didn’t want people to know I was trying to get pregnant because I was so sensitive about my age. I also found this response stopped this line of questioning dead in its tracks. If you do get pregnant and you see these people again, you can say, “what a pleasant surprise!” and you won’t be lying!

Other responses I’ve heard include:
We’re trying
 Not yet
We can’t
 Apparently not!
We’re very blessed with what we have
Babies seem to come when they’re good and ready
 When we decide (or when we do), you’ll be the first to know!
If you share information about your struggle with infertility, others will know what questions not to ask, thereby avoiding uncomfortable situations. They will hopefully be more sensitive to your needs and they will be less likely to hurt your feelings with needless “kiddie” talk. This also gives you the opportunity to talk freely about your feelings and release some of your stress which can ultimately help you relax. The downside of telling others is they may purposefully avoid talking with you about certain subjects which can leave you feeling isolated and like somewhat of an outcast. To me, there would be nothing worse than finding out a mutual acquaintance is pregnant and then find out everyone was trying to keep it from me. Only you can decide the right way to handle this dilemma for yourself, but my best advice is to plan it out ahead of time so you're prepared when the question arise.

Friday, January 01, 2016


Pregnancy Over 40 Is Possible, New Year, New Expectations

I recall going through six years of trying to conceive. The holidays back then were just a way of marking time...another year - no baby.
 January was always such a relief because I could put all the holiday hoopla to rest. I wouldn't have to sit through tiring social get togethers for another year and I could get back into my comfortable routine.

Even though I went through six holiday seasons without a baby, somehow a new year always brought new expectations: this is the year I'm going to have a baby. I often wondered if I was a glutton for punishment. What made me think the new year would be any different from all the rest? To make matters worse, one of the years I went through IVF, I got pregnant and found out I miscarried right before Christmas. There's nothing like having a miscarriage to put you in the holiday spirit. All sarcasm aside, somehow I kept on going. Even though my age, the statistics and my reproductive history were against me, deep down I knew I couldn't quit.


 My baby was somewhere hovering over me and I knew my persistence would pay off. The moral of the story is that the new year can be different. There's something about putting your past behind you that opens up new possibilities. Instead of seeing the new year as a reminder that you're still not pregnant, see it as a new start. That was then and this is now. Stay away from the naysayers (for me it was the reproductive endocrinologists) - they may derail you from your goal. So when I say Happy New Year, I mean it. Past performance does not predict future results.

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